DO YOU STAY UP LATE AT NIGHT STRESSED OUT & WORRIED ABOUT BILLS, MONEY & MAJOR CHANGES?
FIRST OF ALL IF YOUR WORRIED. STRESSED OUT ON BILLS, MONEY & MAJOR CHANGES, LET'S LOOK AT A FEW DEFINITIONS TO EASE YOUR MIND RIGHT NOW.
STRESS= THE NON SPECIFIC RESPONSE OF THE BODY TO ANY DEMAND MADE UPON IT
STRESSFUL LIFE EVENT= AN EVENT THAT CREATES A CHANGE IN THE FAMILY SYSTEM.
STRESSOR= AN EXTERNAL EVENT THAT CAUSES AN EMOTIONAL AND/OR PHYSICAL RESPONSE AND THAT CAN PRECIPITATE A CRISIS.
I WANTED TO GIVE YOU SOME GOOD INFORMATION. SO, I LOOKED BACK AT SOME OF MY OLD COLLEGE TEXTBOOKS TO REFERENCE SOME VALID MATERIAL BEFORE I GO INTO MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCES THAT ARE SO VAST ON THIS SUBJECT MATTER. ONE BOOK I PULLED SOME MATERIALS FROM IS CALLED "MARRIAGE AND THE FAMILY BY OLSON & DEFRAIN 2ND ED."
DID YOU KNOW THAT THERE ARE 7 FAMILY LIFE CYCLES?
STAGE 1= YOUNG COUPLES WITHOUT CHILDREN
STAGE 2= CHILDBEARING STAGE
STAGE 3= FAMILIES WITH SCHOOL-AGE CHILDREN
STAGE 4= FAMILIES WITH ADOLESCENTS
STAGE 5= LAUNCHING FAMILIES
STAGE 6= EMPTY NEST FAMILIES
STAGE 7= FAMILIES IN RETIREMENT
WELL, I WANT YOU TO KNOW THAT OUT OF ALL SEVEN STAGES; I HAVE GONE THRU 6 OUT OF SEVEN AT THE RIPE AGE OF 40 YEARS OLD. IF I HAD OF PLAYED MY "CARDS RIGHT" I WOULD BE APPROACHING EARLY RETIREMENT RIGHT ABOUT NOW. SO, TAKE MY ADVICE, DON'T GET WORRIED, STRESSED OUT ON BILLS, MONEY OR MAJOR CHANGES? O.K.?
HOWEVER, AS ONE OF THE FAMOUS QUOTES GOES, " YOU LIVE AND YOU LEARN" YOU KNOW, I BELIEVE IF I COULD LIVE MY LIFE ALL OVER AGAIN WITH THE KNOWLEDGE I HAVE NOW IN THE BODY I HAD BACK IN HIGH SCHOOL I WOULD DEFINITELY HAVE NAVIGATED THROUGHOUT MY LIFE MUCH MORE QUICKLY AND SUCCESSFULLY.
IN EACH OF THESE STAGES IT IS REPORTED IN THIS BOOK REFERENCED ABOVE THAT AT LEAST 10% OF FAMILIES ARE AFFECTED BY COMMON LIFE EVENTS THAT MAY BE RELATED TO STRESS. SOME OF THOSE COMMON THREADS I TOO HAVE EXPERIENCED & ARE LISTED BELOW:
*INCOMPLETED TASKS
*EMOTIONAL DIFFICULTIES IN FAMILY LIFE
*SEXUAL DIFFICULTIES BETWEEN SIGNIFICANT OTHERS
*UNSTABLE ECONOMIC (FINANCIAL) CONDITIONS
*MAJOR FINANCIAL INVESTMENTS AND/OR PURCHASES
*MEDICAL AND/OR DENTAL EXPENSES
*MONEY FOR BASIC EVERYDAY FAMILY LIVING
*CHANGING JOBS AND/OR CAREERS
*LOSING, QUITTING, OR RETIRING FROM A JOB
*ILLNESS AND DEATH IN THE FAMILY
I BELIEVE THE MOST VALUABLE QUESTION TO ASK AT THIS POINT IS
HOW DO YOU COPE OR MANAGE WITH STRESSFUL LIFE EVENTS?
FOR ME, I USED MENTORS, EXPRESSED MY FEELINGS WITH TRUSTED INDIVIDUALS, UTILIZED LIFE COACHES, SUBMITTED UNDER COUPLE OF PASTORS AND WIVES OVER THE YEARS, READ POSITIVE BOOKS, READ BOOKS FILLED WITH HOPE, LAUGHTER, READ ANCIENT PROVERBS, RELAXATION METHODS, SPOKE WITH ELDERLY INDIVIDUALS WHO HAVE LIVED LONG, BECAME ACTIVE IN "CHURCH" FOR A WHILE AND SO MUCH MORE OVER THE YEARS.
I BELIEVE WHAT HAS KEPT ME GOING AND SURVIVING ALL OF THE SITUATIONS MENTION ON MY HOMEPAGE IS KNOWING DEEP DOWN INSIDE "I KNOW THAT I CAN MAKE IT, I BELIEVE IN ME WHEN NO ONE ELSE WILL, I AM SOMEBODY WITH COURAGE AND DETERMINATION TO FINISH THIS RACE CALLED LIFE" PLEASE, DON'T LET YOURSELF GET WORRIED, STRESSED OUT ON PAYING BILLS, MONEY OR MAJOR CHANGES IN LIFE.
I HAVE PROMISED MYSELF I WON'T CRY ANYMORE BECAUSE I HAVE SHED ENOUGH TEARS FOR A LIFETIME. SO, IN RETURN I HAVE TRIED MY BEST TO LIVE IN THE PRESENT (NOW) VERSUS LIVING IN THE PAST.
THEREFORE, I WILL NOT GO INTO GREAT DEPTH TO BRING YOU DOWN BUT WHAT I WILL DO FOR YOU IS SHARE AS MANY RESOURCES, INFORMATION AND WEBSITES FOR YOU TO VISIT REGARDING GETTING INSIDER INFO ON HELP TO RESOLVE OR BRING UNDER WRAPS ISSUES LIKE: PAYING BILLS, MONEY, CREDIT ISSUES, LEGAL PROBLEMS, CHILD SUPPORT, ADDICTIONS, DEBT RELEIF, LOVED ONE IN PRISION, DIVORCE, JOB LOSS, CHILDCARE, HOMELESSNESS, BANKRUPTCY....
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